Shane Allen Roger Schaben

This memorial website was created to remember our dearest Shane Allen Roger Schaben who was born in Napa, California on April 1, 1981 and Fell Asleep on September 9, 1996. Shane will live forever in our Memories and Hearts.

 
SHANE WAS BORN IN NAPA, CALIFORNIA ON APRIL 1,1981 HE WAS 8LBS  1 1/2OZ AND WAS 21 INCHES LONG. BORN AT QUEEN OF THE VALLEY HOSPITAL AT 7:27pm TO LORI SCHABEN-FARRELL. ON THE NIGHT OF SEPT.7TH 1996 SHANE WAS SPENDING THE NIGHT AT A FRIENDS HOUSE. THE TWO OF THEM WENT TO ANOTHER FRIENDS HOUSE TO WATCH THE TYSON FIGHT. THEN SHANE GOT A PAGE FROM A ANOTHER FRIEND WANTING TO KNOW IF HE WANTED TO GO CRUZING AROUND TOWN. HE SAID SURE, AND THAT FRIEND (shannon) WENT OVER TO B.J.'S HOUSE AND PICKED UP SHANE AND HIS FRIEND ANDREA. WHEN SHANNON PICKED THEM UP IN HER G.E.O. TRACKER HER ALSO HAD HER SISTER AND HER SISTERS BOYFRIEND IN THE TRACKER. A G.E.O. TRACKER ONLY HAS FOUR SEATS TOTAL. (drivers, passangers, and two rear seats) WHEN SHE PICKED UP SHANE AND ANDREA THIS MEANT THERE WAS FIVE OF THEM IN A JEEP THAT ONLY HAS FOUR SEATS. AS THEY WERE CRUZING AROUND THEY RAN INTO ANOTHER FRIEND WHO ASKED IF SHE COULD GET A RIDE HOME. SHANNON SAID SURE AND THIS PUT THE SIXTH PERSON IN THE JEEP. FOUR IN THE BACK AND TWO IN THE FRONT. ON THE WAY TAKING AMBER HOME AT AROUND 11:00pm SHANNON GOING HIGHWAY SPEED IN A 35mph. RAN A STOP SIGN AND THE G.E.O. TRACKER WAS HIT BY ANOTHER CAR. YES SHANE KNEW BETTER THAN TO BE STANDING UP IN THE BACK OF THE TRACKER BUT HE PAID THE HIGHEST PRICE.SHANE WAS RUSHED TO THE QUEEN OF THE VALLEY HOSPITAL AND ON SEPT.9TH 1996 AFTER 32 HOURS OF FIGHTING FOR HIS LIFE HE WAS GIVEN HIS ANGEL WINGS AND FLEW UP TO THE OPEN GATES. PLEASE LIGHT A CANDEL IN MEMORY OF MY ONLY CHILD SHANE ALLEN ROGER  SCHABEN. R.I.P. MY CHILD UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN. I LOVE AND MISS YOU . XOXOXOXOXOX YOUR MOM;  PLEASE LIGHT A CANDLE IN MEMORY OF SHANE THANK YOU AND GOD BLESS

 ~ SHANE ALLEN ROGER SCHABEN ~

HE WHO IS MY SON

"As a baby, I cuddled you in my arms
And smothered your sweet face with kisses.
I vowed I would never let you go.
As a child, I pushed you to study hard
And learn all the good things
From the world around you.
As a young man, I encouraged you
To follow your dreams and pray,
be passionate about all your choices.
And then I did the hardest thing I ever had to do…
That which I vowed I would never do…
I had to let you go."

 THE CORD

We are connected,
My child and I,
By an invisible cord
Not seen by the eye.
Its not like the cord
that connects us 'til birth,
This cord can't be seen
By any on Earth.
This cord does its work

Right from the start,
It binds us together
Attached to my heart.
I know that its there
Though no one can see,
The invisible cord
From my child to me.
The strength of this cord
Its hard to describe
It can't be destroyed
It can't be denied.
Its stronger than any cord
Man could make.
It withstands the test
Can hold any weight.
And though you are gone,
Though you're not here with me,
The cord is still there
But no one can see.
It pulls at my heart
I am bruised...I am sore,
But this cord is my lifeline
As never before. so,
I am thankful that God
Connects us this way

 SHANE, I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU SO VERY MUCH !!!!

YOU ARE MY ONE AND ONLY SON, AND YOUR MY WORLD..

UNTIL, WE MEET AGAIN SHANE, REST IN PEACE MY SON...

LOVE ALWAYS YOUR MOTHER...

~ SHANE ALLEN ROGER SCHABEN ~

 ~ WE LOVE AND MISS YOU SO MUCH ~

~SMILE BECAUSE HE LIVED~

I CAN SHED TEARS THAT SHANE IS GONE,
OR I CAN SMILE BECAUSE HE LIVED,
I CAN CLOSE MY EYES AND PRAY THAT HE'LL COME BACK,
OR I CAN OPEN MY EYES AND SEE ALL THAT HE HAS LEFT.

MY HEART CAN BE EMPTY BECAUSE I CAN'T SEE HIM,
OR I CAN BE FULL OF THE LOVE THAT WE SHARED.
I CAN TURN MY BACK ON TOMORROW AND LIVE YESTERDAY,
OR I CAN BE BLESSED FOR TOMORROW BECAUSE OF YESTERDAY.

I CAN REMEMBER SHANE AND ONLY THAT HE IS GONE,
OR I CAN CHERISH HIS MEMORY AND LET IT LIVE ON.
I CAN CRY AND CLOSE MY HEART, BE EMPTY AND TURN BACK,
OR I CAN DO WHAT SHANE WOULD WANT:
SMILE~OPEN MY EYES~CONTINUE TO LOVE AND GO ON~
SMILE BECAUSE YOU LIVED, SHANE~~~
...............ALWAYS LOVING YOU BUDDY..........

 ~ WE LOVE AND MISS YOU VERY MUCH SHANE...

YOUR MOTHER AND I WILL SEE YOU AGAIN,

WHEN JESUS RETURNS, UNTIL THEN MY HANDSOME NEPHEW~

REST IN PEACE...

WE LOVE YOU VERY MUCH!!!!!

LOVE, YOUR MOTHER AND YOUR AUNT MELISSA....

           ~ THIS GRAPHIC WAS MADE BY AUNTIE MELISSA ~

 A Mother's Daily Nightmare

I woke up this morning,

And you where not there.

I can't kiss your cheek,

Or brush back your hair.

The day's of joy are over,

The pain and sorrow start.

Because when you went to heaven,

You also took my heart.

I have to live my nightmare,

Each morning when I wake.

I have to feel this pain,

With every breath I take.

With gut wrenching sorrow,

And mind numbing pain.

I daily live this nightmare,

Over and Over again.

~ SHANE SCHABEN ~

"I THOUGHT OF YOU WITH LOVE TODAY, BUT THAT IS NOTHING NEW,

I THOUGHT ABOUT YOU YESTERDAY AND DAYS BEFORE THAT, TOO.

I THINK OF YOU IN SILENCE;  I OFTEN SPEAK YOUR NAME.

ALL I HAVE ARE MEMORIES, AND YOUR PICTURE IN A FRAME.

YOUR MEMORY IS MY KEEPSAKE, WITH WHICH I'LL NEVER PART.....

GOD HAS YOU 'SLEEPING', I HAVE YOU IN MY HEART!!"

~I WILL LOVE YOU, SHANE, FOREVER AND A DAY~

LOVE YOUR,  MOTHER

I PROMISE

I promise I won't cry forever

But I need to just today.
I promise I will remember
How to live and how to play.

I promise that I'll dry my tears
When the heartache goes away.
I promise that it won't take years
But I need another day.

I promise that I'll live my life
As you would want me to.
I promise when I'm facing strife
I'll face it straight and true.

I promise I will endeavor
To do the best I can each day.
I promise I won't cry forever
But I need to just today.......

~ THIS CANDLE BURNS FOR YOU SHANE ~

WE LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU,

SLEEP WELL MY NEPHEW, WHEN JESUS

RETURNS~ WE WILL BE ABLE TO SEE YOU AGAIN...